BeamLight Foundation held her last session of year 2018 Coaching/Mentoring class for preteens and teens (ages: 8-19) on 10th November 2018. We treated the topics:
1. Setting Boundaries and;
2. Dealing with Doubts
Participants were encouraged on the need to always set boundaries; from setting physical boundaries to setting emotional boundaries. In order to remain both physically and emotionally healthy, boundaries must be set. A boundary is a limit or space between you and the other person; a clear place where you begin and the other person ends. Physical boundaries provide a barrier between you and an intruding force. Physical boundaries include your body, sense of personal space, sexual orientation, and privacy. These boundaries are expressed through clothing, shelter, noise tolerance, verbal instruction, and body language. On the otherhand, emotional and intellectual boundaries protect your sense of self-esteem and ability to separate your feelings from others’. The following tips were given for setting healthy boundaries: 1. When you identify the need to set boundary, do it clearly, calmly, firmly and respectfully. 2. Your behaviour must match the boundaries you are setting. 3. Listen to yourself, determine what you need to do or say, then communicate assertively. 4. Learning to set healthy boundaries takes time. It is a process. Set them in your own time frame, not when someone else tells you. 5. Develop a support system of people who respect your right to set boundaries. Eliminate toxic persons from your life – those who want to manipulate, abuse, and control you.
Futhermore, the youngsters were also encouraged and taught tips on how to deal with doubts. “The worst enemy to creativity is self-doubt” – Sylvia Plath. Doubt is a mental state in which the mind remains suspended between two or more contradictory propositions, and unable to assent to any of them. Doubt on an emotional level is indecision between belief and disbelief. William Shakespeare avers: “Our doubts are traitors, and make us lose the good we oft might win, by fearing to attempt.” Doubt causes failures. Nip it on the bud! Participants were admonished not to focus on doubt but on what they desire. Your belief that you can’t have what you really want will be created in your life as that thought energy goes to work to make sure you don’t get what you want. Tips on how to let go of doubts: 1. Acknowledge your doubt. In order to let go of self-doubt, you must first acknowledge it. You will never be able to overcome something if you don’t first recognise that it exist and is affecting your decisions. 2. Question your doubt. What do you doubt? Where do those concerns come from? 3. Take small steps toward your goal. Rather than focusing on how big your task is, think of it in smaller chunks. 4. Take a break and get a boost of optimism. 5. Don’t be afraid to seek help. 6. Hang around uplifting people etc.
All thanks to God for yet another successful training session. Thanks to all members, volunteers and supporters of BeamLight Foundation! Do see scenes from the class below
